Paradox – A proposition that seems self-contradictory but in fact expresses a potential truth.
Yes, parents should know better. They have more life experience, maturity and resources than their children. They are the ones that must take everything they know and submit it to the greater cause of raising great young men and women so they can become productive citizens of society.
Recently, I spoke on three important parental focuses. The response to that message mandated I write this blog.
Here is my Big 3 when it comes to parenting:
- Show your child unconditional love (which builds worth and value)
- Help your child discover their unique difference (this develops identity).
- Let them make low-level mistakes while still in your house (this molds maturity and confidence).
If every child experienced unconditional love, had someone reflect back to them their unique brilliance, and gave them a safe place to take risk and test their mettle, the world would be a wide and spacious place of creativity and productivity. Healthy people would be connecting with other healthy people in healthy relationships. Sounds like societal bliss, doesn’t it?
Yet, the greatest challenge to this type of success is the parent. The parent has to discipline himself/herself not to bulldoze forward, parenting in a style that maximizes their own strengths, willing to adjust their style of parenting to maximize the impact it will have on each individual child. If you have three children, you may have to offer correction, affirmation and instruction differently. If not, one child will thrive and another child will wither
The paradox of parenting is while the parent has all the experience, wisdom and maturity, they have to let the child take the lead in their own development and support them in a way that they feel it.