Are You In Between Friends?

 

I was talking to a friend recently and he said to me that he was in a season where he was in between friends. That struck me as an unusual statement. So, I asked him to explain. He said, “When you are in a drug recovery program you have to stop hanging out with your old friends. It is just something you have to do”. Which reminds me of an old saying I heard about people working through recovery. It goes like this:

 

No old play things

No old playgrounds

No old playmates

 

I think that advice would work for most of us.

 

My friend went on to say, “So you have to cut off your old friends and it takes time to make new friends. There is about a 6-month period where you have no friends. You are in between friends”.

 

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I had one immediate thought and another that came a day later. The immediate thought was that trying to overcome an addiction must be difficult all by itself, but to do it without friends makes me understand why the success rate is so low. I just can’t imagine how amazingly difficult that must be. My empathy went up for people who fight that battle just from that one conversation.

 

The thought that came to me a day later was I bet that “in between friends” principle works when you are being promoted from one season to another as well. Think about it. For us to make a brave move, change our lives and create a whole new reality, we would have to squelch some of the input from our current friends. They know the old me. They have been very comfortable with the old me and will continually reinforce that version of me.

 

But, when you make your move and have no idea what your doing, you sort of have to go it alone for a while. Don’t you? People can’t really go with you, when you don’t know where you are going…unless they are a rare, friend for life. Are you “in between friends”? If so, it might be uncomfortable but it’s totally normal. You’re probably on the verge of a breakout in your life.

 

I am cheering for you!

 

 

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6 Replies to “Are You In Between Friends?”

  1. When im inbetween friens it usually means michele is mad at me for something…lol.. she’s my bestie. Enjoyed ur blog. Blessings

  2. Great blog! The friends we choose to surround ourselves with is key to whether we go forward on our journeys or backwards. I’m so thankful for and blessed to have an amazing inner circle of friends that can strengthen me and vice versa, and we can speak life into each other’s lives. It brings joy in the journey as we all seek to know God more and walk on purpose toward our destiny and share His love with others!

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